'Interesting Times' by Rvd. Cliff Reed

In the prayer we just had, Dwight Brown quotes the “ancient Chinese curse, ‘May you live in interesting times.’” Well, I suppose you could say that we live in “interesting times.” When we say that times are or were   “interesting”, we generally mean that they are “interesting” to look back on from a safe distance. True, some times are both interesting and good to look back on – I can think of some – but more often than not, what makes times “interesting” to look back on was not at all pleasant to live through, hence the Chinese curse. 

Although social historians try to convince us that people’s everyday lives in the past are the most “interesting” aspects of it, in the main those lives appear to us have been as uneventful and unremarkable as ours mostly are. Sadly, therefore they are often neglected and overlooked. But what usually makes history “interesting” – even exciting, fascinating and compelling – are the times when humdrum, everyday life was interrupted by social upheaval, natural disaster, war, revolution, plague and pestilence.  

Of course, it takes time for such things to become “interesting” – often many years, even decades and centuries. While they are happening they are frequently nothing less than disastrous, with great suffering, great misery, even great evil and cruelty. But as all personal involvement with such times fades away then we come to see them as “interesting” – the fit subject for scholarly studies, historical novels, films, plays, “historical” re-enactments and television documentaries – even comedy. Try these things when the human suffering is still fresh, though, and the cry goes up that it’s “too soon.”   

The time of pandemic that we are living through will one day be counted among those “interesting times.” The pandemic is indeed a “curse” and few would use the word “interesting” to describe it now. Hundreds of thousands, even millions, dead is not “interesting”, it is catastrophic – not to mention all the personal suffering it has caused and is causing over and above the stark statistics of the death toll alone. Our response to this may be shock and horror, depression and despair, grief and sorrow, compassion and resilience, courage and resolve, or any number of exceptional responses to exceptional circumstances – but “interest”? Few would rate that as an adequate term to describe their feelings. Today the interest lies in finding ways to halt the pandemic, to alleviate the suffering it brings, and to defeat – or, at least, suppress – the virus that is causing it. 

Much is rightly said about the pandemic’s effects on physical and mental health, but what about our spiritual health? Our sense of purpose, our confidence in who and what we are, our rootedness in something that underpins our lives in all their fragility and vulnerability? By throwing our lives into varying degrees of confusion, by blighting our plans and hopes for the future, by undermining our confidence in the structures on which we thought our lives rested: our society and we, as individuals within it, have been challenged existentially. 

We are not, after all, safe and secure in a bubble of comfortable self-confidence. Our bubble is fragile, perhaps increasingly so, and for all too many people it has burst altogether – or will. And it doesn’t take too much thought to realise how easily this could be true for all of us, even if we haven’t really suffered too much ourselves so far. We have been fortunate that vaccines were developed so fast – imagine what things would be like if they hadn’t been. But can we be sure that future viruses, or even further mutations of the Covid 19 virus, will be so easily contained – not that “easily” is the right word, of course! Even the present virus, in its various versions, is still far from ending its depredations. And this is especially so in poorer countries without the best modern medical facilities and ready access to adequate supplies of vaccine. 

Another disturbing factor is the link being made between the pandemic and the wider – indeed, greater – environmental crisis that we face on many fronts. Our upsetting of nature’s balanced systems, our tearing apart of its web of life, our reckless confusion of things best kept distinct – all this and more will bring manifold new threats to human health and wellbeing, to our ways of life around this one world. 

Of course, humanity has a way of surviving and surmounting challenges, of finding resources – including spiritual resources – with which to survive those “interesting times”, but the combination of threats we now face is unprecedented. There is certainly no guarantee that we can somehow emerge from them unscathed, even emerge from them at all in any state that could be called satisfactory. 

In the far future, historically-minded folk may find these times of ours “interesting”, but the prospect for all too many of those doomed to live through them is anything but. Which is why it is up to the present generation of earthlings to see that our “interesting times” don’t get any more “interesting”, and instead become mercifully uninteresting and humdrum: a normal succession of life and death, of everyday dramas of no great consequence, of events which make for happiness and content but which won’t detain future historians overmuch. We want stability, a future we can have some sense of certainty about, a world of peace and order, sustainability, health and simple pleasures.  Not heaven on earth, perhaps, but at least an earth beautiful, vibrant and pleasant to live on. Is that too much to ask? Not really, but achieving this modest aim requires us all in these “interesting times” to adapt our ways and lifestyles, to change our priorities and technologies, our economic systems and methods of doing business, and so make more secure the basis of our increasingly unstable existence. But, of course there can be no guarantees. 

Lent is a good time to reflect on such things. When Jesus was “driven” into the wilderness after his baptism he was forced to re-assess his life and its purpose – an existential shift portrayed mythologically as his triumph over the temptations of the devil. It was this that set him out on his ministry, and ultimately on the road to Jerusalem and the great crisis that awaited him there. It was that ministry, that crisis and what followed, that set out a new spiritual path for humankind. That path still offers us a world at peace with itself, with nature and with God, the eternal basis of our existence.  

Reject that path, take the ways of greed and destruction, and life gets rather too “interesting”. Follow it and something more important than mere “interest” comes into play.  It is the world where, as the prophet Micah says, “nation shall not lift up sword against nation, neither shall they learn war any more. But they shall sit every man under his vine and under his fig tree; and none shall make them afraid.” (Micah 4: 3-4) Not very “interesting” to historians but no bad way to live out our human existence. 

In the wilderness Jesus confronted himself and found a new path to follow for the good of humanity. As the model for Lent, that wilderness experience, that time of fasting, bids us to put aside our usual assumptions, to renounce our petty ambitions, and instead seek a deeper understanding of our life’s purpose, rooted in loving kindness and the will to be a saving and healing presence in this wounded world.

I suppose this past year of pandemic has seen us all driven into the wilderness in one way or another, and we are not out of it yet. Some have confronted their interior demons as well as external tribulations, and come through – battered but unbowed. Some, sadly, have not done so well. Others, of course, have not survived at all. We give thanks to those who have borne the brunt of this particular wilderness and its trials and temptations for the sake of us all. And let us resolve to learn from the wilderness ourselves, finding there a deeper assurance, a clearer path and a better way to be human in these troubled and all too “interesting times.”

'Happiness' by Gerrie Hudson

Reflections 

Will you be YOUR valentine? Will you give yourself love, kindness and compassion?

Before I knew there was the opportunity to lead this service on 14th Feb, I already had the idea of focussing on the ‘as yourself’ part of ‘Love your Neighbour as Yourself’.

My Grandma was a committed and humble Christian, her faith was clearly important to her and it guided her. 

The impression she gave me was that she did her utmost to love her neighbour. And my memories of her are that she would have been quite comfortable to stop there. The ‘As yourself’ bit carried no weight.

What does it mean if you love your neighbour as yourself, if you are self -critical and unkind to yourself? Would you be more comfortable if it were changed to ‘Love your neighbour MORE than yourself?

We started the service with the African Children’s Choir performing at the opening of a Community Centre in Walsall. ‘This Little Light of Mine’ is a simple reminder that our inner contentment, joy and happiness is infectious when we let it shine. Yes - sometimes infections are good.

I chose Ken Dodd’s famous song ‘Happiness’ for the first reading today not just because the lyrics are simply lovely – but also because there is a common misconception that happiness is about the silliness of a tickling stick or about fun and joking around. As an usher at Ipswich Regent Theatre about 30 years ago, I witnessed a 65 year old Ken Dodd perform to a packed auditorium for 3 hours solid. It was joke after joke, laugh after laugh. But the song he nailed his colours to is about a deeper, lasting happiness. Happiness is deeper than a quick fix - whether that’s a side-splitting joke, a tickle from a feather duster, or whatever your indulgence is – even an extra slice of cake or bag of crisps. These are momentary treats - and are not about self-compassion or long term contentment. 

This leads me on to the reading Maggie shared on self-compassion. As a core of Tibetan Buddhist teaching, including the Dalai Lama’s  ‘The Art of Happiness’, there is a direct connection of self-compassion, with compassion towards others. In the excerpt, scholar Thupten Jinpa goes on to explain the importance of working on our inner contentment. Why?  So that this little inner light of ours shines brightly and each of us shares that light outwards on others.

Happiness is not just the concern of the religious. It is now a macros trend in my work as a Business Psychologist. Happiness is big in Business Leadership. Scholars at leading Universities - Yale, Harvard and Oxford - are researching happiness and finding that people who are deeply happy tend to make better decisions, are more productive and handle stress better. They lead others better too.

So what can we do to work on our self-compassion and build our happiness?

Giving yourself a moment to take deep breaths is a good starting point -getting some oxygen into the nooks and crannies of our bodies. You may have heard that singing helps this too. So I’ve included a some hymns and songs that I deliberately hope that you might find get stuck in your head for a while even after the service has ended. I hope you find yourself humming or singing, to yourself, or preferably out loud.

Mindfulness is finding something that enables you to be in the present moment. A place where you can just BE. Accepting how you are feeling – without judgement, without overreaction.

I know meditation can bring comfort and contentment. If Meditation/prayer or quiet contemplation is not your thing, you can still Be Your Own Valentine by gifting yourself some time to do something that means you lose thoughts of yesterday – and tomorrow. Whether it be yoga, watching cricket, knitting, gardening, watching garden birds at the feeder, reading a novel, baking or tinkering with your motorbike – they are important kindnesses to yourself.

This leads me into the next piece of music - my choice of REM’s ‘Everybody Hurts’. This is a reminder that central to self-compassion is accepting suffering. Everybody hurts - sometimes.

Sometimes, some days – some weeks or longer we have to handle hurt, which leads into the next element of self-compassion.

Self-Kindness – We need to be aware of when we are being self-critical, especially when we’re having a hard time. You know, going though things like navigating through a global pandemic ...

Jinpa’s suggestion in the reading is to imagine ourselves as a small child. Would we be so hard on that child? You might also find it helpful to give yourself time to write down the noise in your head (or journaling as some call it) then to read back the inner thoughts. This can make it easier to notice just how self-critical we can be. I tend to call it my inner sock puppet – a grouch who tries to protect me from moving on. It may be trying to keep me safe, but in my case it’s just a sock.  In short – self kindness is about cutting ourselves some slack.

And finally

Common Humanity - this could be called counting our blessings. We are not alone in our suffering and to help this, a daily/weekly practice of ‘gratitudes’ can help.  In our little family - we now take turns to share three things, our three Highlights of the Week, which helps each of us recognise the good things - some big, many small, that can get lost in the noise of daily ‘stuff’. It has moved on from ‘something annoying Mum makes us do’ – to something my daughter prompts us to do.

So today - Will you be your own Valentine?

Self-compassion leads to compassion for others, helping us love our neighbours in healthy, positive, constructive, kind ways – as we love ourselves.

Thank you for giving me your time to invite you to consider your happiness.

'The Colour of Magic' by Ali Mercer

The Colour of Magic

Part 1

When Lucy pushed her way through the coats hanging in an old wardrobe, she could never have imagined what she would find. Instead of a simple hiding place in a game of Hide and Seek, she steps into a whole new world, a world full of strange and magical things: a lamp in the middle of a frozen forest, a faun, a witch and a talking lion. She crossed a threshold from her mundane world into the magical kingdom of Narnia and she and her brothers lived alternative lives there.

Like many stories, The Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe has many layers: a simple children’s tale of adventure and escapism, but full of metaphors and deeper meaning for those who wish to see them.

Magic doesn’t have to be supernatural though. We will all have seen things like the ‘top 10 most magical places to go on holiday’ or ‘the most magical classical music’. We may describe events in our lives as magical, such as wedding days and births of children. These things have that mysterious and enchanting quality we describe as magical. They are often things which we struggle to find other words to describe; places or events which have an ephemeral quality; moments in time which leave feelings traced on our hearts which cannot be contained in words.

In contrast to the land of Narnia, the story of The Secret Garden is set in our world, within the confines of an old house and its gardens. There are no witches, fauns or talking lions, but there is mystery and magic all the same.

When the twelve year old orphan Mary arrived from India at the cold, lonely and unwelcoming Yorkshire moorland home of an unknown uncle, she had no idea what awaited her. When a series of serendipitous events lead to her discovery of an enclosed and forgotten garden, she began to encounter what she would later talk about as ‘magic’: the magic of a beautiful place and growing things; of discovery and purpose as she begins to tend the garden; the magic of friendship when she meets Dickon, a boy who is friends with all the wild things of the moor and gardens; then the magic of restoration as the garden comes to life around them and feeds her spirit.

Later in the book, she meets an unheard of cousin, a ten year old hypochondriac, invalid boy, virtually disowned by his father, living in fear of turning into a hunchback and certain he would die before too long. As she slowly shares with him the discoveries she has made and the wonder of the world outside, Colin, the orator in our reading, begins to recover his health and throughout a summer in the secret garden he becomes more and more aware of this strange sense of ‘something’ working around and inside him.

The three friends spend time noticing the small things and the wider world around them: Colin lies in the grass to watch things grow and feels himself grow as he exercises his limbs; Dickon tends the roses and talks with his tame animals, sensible to all the life around him ; Mary notices how she starts to care about things other than herself and how the garden brings them all together.

She came to believe that something ‘magic’ had led her to discover the garden: not something supernatural, but rather something else, something impossible to describe exactly, but a bit like an unseen power which felt good and right. Perhaps the garden itself needed to be discovered, needed the children to observe and become a part of it. Colin certainly believed so and came to see and feel a magic in everything about him: he learnt to feel its power and it nourished them all as they tended their little sheltered world. They revelled in the wonder and beauty of their surroundings, of their friendships and in the joy of being young, healthy and optimistic again.

It’s no wonder that as adults, people so often look for those places and moments of ‘magic’; chasing those feelings which do so much to nourish us. They are so often fleeting and can be difficult to find in the challenges of daily life, especially under current conditions. Separated from the places and people we would usually share a close connection with, we are suffering from a kind of malnourishment of the heart and mind, hungry for the magic moments of peace, contentment, sharing, growth, wonder and so much more. 

But magic can appear in all sorts of places…

Part 2

The majesty and wonder of a starlit sky could truly be described as magical: it is mysterious and enchanting, as it is awe-inspiring. It is one of those things which reminds us not only of eternity and of our place in it, but of something else, something impossible to describe exactly. I can’t imagine that anyone would be moved by the sight of the night sky and not left with a sense of ‘something’ magical.

Other things, like a spectacular sunset, the crash of waves or our favourite view may remind us too of that ‘magical something’ we feel in and around us at those moments. I can imagine astronauts having similar feelings when seeing the earth below them for the first time. It’s often these big, ‘colourful’ moments in life which serve as reminders to us of an extra dimension to our lives, but there are other, more subtle colours too.

We watched a carriage full of people gradually, if a little reluctantly, come together to sing a song which brought smiles and laughter to what would usually be a group of individuals trying their best to pretend no-one else exists around them. Believe me, as a former London commuter myself, I can say this is close to a miracle and I’m absolutely sure everyone who was there has never forgotten it or the way it made them feel. They shared a simple joy, not just in the singing itself, but in the warmth of connection with fellow human beings. Being able to do this in a space in which other people are usually an obstacle and an annoyance is really a magical occurrence!

I wouldn’t be surprised if for the rest of that day and possibly longer, those people who had sung or just listened would have been readier with a smile or a kind word than usual and perhaps a little more open to seeing and feeling the small things which make big differences in our lives. Maybe they became more aware of their own thoughts and feelings and of how they were affecting others. Maybe they took time to appreciate things they might have otherwise dismissed as unimportant. Maybe they called someone they’d been meaning to contact for a while and change their whole day too. Who knows how far the ripple effect may have gone?

While the big, colourful moments when we are reminded of the magic of the universe and our incredible planet can be overwhelming, the smaller things can be no less effective. Taking a moment to wonder at green shoots pushing from the earth; to feel the warmth of giving and receiving a smile with someone; to give thanks for a vaccine going into our arms, is just as important as being transported by a breathtaking sunset. Like Colin, we can give ourselves time to feel the drawing in and out of that magic, in ourselves, in each other, in the smallest and the biggest of things.

Later on in his story, as he was tending the garden, Colin experiences a moment in which he felt so filled with simple joy that he wanted to “jump up and shout out something to anything that would listen”. He couldn’t find a way to express what he was feeling, so Dickon sang a song: 

“Praise God from whom all blessings flow,
Praise Him all creatures here below,
Praise Him above ye heavenly host,
Praise Father, Son and Holy Ghost.” 

The beauty of the song transported them all and helped them express their inner joy. Dickon’s mother explained to Colin, “Th’ Magic listened when tha’ sung. It would ha’ listened to anything tha’d sung. It was th’joy that mattered. Eh! Lad, lad - what’s names to th’ Joy Maker?” 

She was so right: what are names to the Joy Maker? There are hundreds of names we might use, not one of them can encompass that magic, that power, the spirit and essence we experience. We call might it the Divine, God, Chi or Tao. None of the labels do it justice. Perhaps it really doesn’t matter what we call it: what matters most is that we recognise and feel it at work in ourselves, in others, in the world around us.  

What Dickon’s mum calls the Big, Good Thing, the Joygiver, is in the roots and the shoots, in the rain and the sun, in the smile and the song, in the kind word and the loving touch. It is everywhere, drawing in and out: from the tiniest snowflake to the biggest wave; from the dormant acorn to the squalling newborn baby; from the quiet moment of contemplation to the song or shout of joy which just can’t be held in. We can, as Colin said, try an experiment and keep thinking about it and calling it. Alongside our own efforts it will nourish and energise us, just as he discovered. 

So let us open our minds and our hearts to all the colours of magic, from the bright to the subtle. Let us be danced by the dance and let the spirit move.

May it be so.

'Future of the Past' by Ali Mercer

The Future of the Past

Part One

We are the living products of our past; walking, talking bits of history. Our bodies contain the elements blasted into being at The Big Bang; they carry the signatures of all the food we’ve eaten and the water water we’ve drunk. We have been shaped by our environment and as humans have evolved, we’ve shaped that environment in our turn, creating a different world for the next generation to grow up in.

Our homes, schools, workplaces; the streets, villages, towns and cities; the countryside we value as natural but which is 99% man-made; it all shapes us every day. We walk in the past.

It’s not just the physical realm which shapes us. By accident of birth, we are born into a human body of some shape and colour, into a family which may be stable or not, which is itself part of a wider society with all its attendant requirements and expectations. In our bid to survive, we learn to conform to the patterns of that society, but there will be many challenges.

Depending on where that baby is born, it will grow up very differently. A female child in some parts of the world can be so unwanted, she is left to die. In many places, she will grow up under the strict control of a male dominated society, never realising her potential. If she is lucky to be born into a fairer society, she may succeed in some field, despite the obstacles in her way. To be homosexual may mean living with anything from personal and institutional discrimination, to being in daily fear for your life because of the beliefs and traditions of the society you live in.

A child of colour may grow up never seeing a white person, or forever be the second-class citizen in a country where they are a minority. Other children may not even have a home to call their own, often unwelcome strangers in a world where artificial borders divide up the earth. The Roma, Kurds, Uighur and Rohingya are peoples whose names we know because of the struggles they face in trying to survive in a present shaped by a history which excludes or persecutes them for who they were.

As more people are forced to leave their homelands to find safe refuge in other parts of the world, they face the discrimination brought about by lessons others grew up with: that foreigners are stupid, unclean, untrustworthy, lazy, frightening and unwelcome. The propaganda of two World Wars, vilifying Jews, Roma and Africans amongst others, lingers long in cultural memory. The echoes of Empire keep some in a false sense of superiority over others.

In religious matters too, we live in the past. For some, religious affiliation is a given: they will grow up within the dominant religion of their country. Others may be born into a family whose traditions see them as a religious minority, such as Christians in a Muslim dominated country. Which tradition is dominant in the present day is a direct consequence of the past: who conquered who, which faction seized power when. The advent of Protestantism in Europe centuries ago, made the creation of the Church of England a possibility when Henry VIII and his cronies wanted to wrestle power and money away from the powerful established church.

As Unitarians, our traditions are part of a long history of religious dissent against past forms of religion dominant at different times. Some of that dissent was based on fundamental disagreements about theology or practice: some of the fissures which fragmented the Christian church changed the very substance of people’s beliefs. Others were ‘fake fights’ over petty subjects, perhaps a cover for personal power struggles. Disagreements and fragmentation seem inescapable where human beings are concerned!

It’s interesting to note that the words we heard from Rev. McDonald Ladd were spoken in 2016, and yet today they seem as relevant as ever: we still hear the same responses to Black Lives Matter, still hear the same tired old excuses of “They were different times” or “You can’t judge historical figures by modern standards” or “But look at all the good things these people did”. Or the best one of all: “You can’t rewrite history”, which is ridiculous as ‘history’ has always been and will continue to be rewritten. The trope that ‘history is written by the victors’ makes the history of the downtrodden no less valid or important.

Part Two

Who knows where the time goes indeed. Time is a funny thing, sometimes stretching out interminably, while at other times it seems to go winging by ever faster! We simplify it in our minds as a single line, past at one end, present in the middle, future at the other end. But I get the feeling it’s more complex than that, as if our place on that line jumps about, or perhaps the line itself gets twisted and we live in this strange kind of past-present. What seems certain is that the tie to our past is unbreakable and that examining that past is important to our future. 

But examining history can be painful. It can dig up uncomfortable truths which rock the foundations of our present days lives. And so it should. The pain experienced by people today is a direct consequence of past decisions taken. We think of progress as a never ending trajectory towards improvement, but it’s not. It’s just change, some of it is beneficial, some is not. 

Take for instance our way of living. There’s no doubt that the Industrial Revolution, technical innovation and medical advances have given many of us us access to homes, work, transport and a longer, more healthy lifespan. But they have also brought about a decrease in environmental cleanliness, over-use of resources, a disconnect between human beings and the world they inhabit and a still-widening gap between the richest and the poorest.

In recent times, we have as a society been faced with the anger and demands for justice from those who have been wronged or believe themselves to be. When we hear of investigations into ‘historical child sex abuse’ we have to acknowledge both that it happened then and still happens now. When a terrorist commits an atrocity as their way of being heard, we are forced to examine where that level of hatred derives from and our part in creating it. When people of colour and their allies pull down statues of slavers, we have to look at the society which chose to put that statue up and the society which chose to leave it here for generations.

Admitting faults strikes at the heart of who we are, personally and at the level of wider society and national identity. How can we sing of Britannia proudly ruling the waves at the same time as acknowledging that our supremacy allowed us to profit from the use and abuse of so many others? How do we celebrate our heroes while admitting that they were terribly racist or sexist? How do we challenge the order of the society we live in without making ourselves unwanted outsiders? I’m not sure the answers are simple, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t ask the questions and explore the possibilities.

When we hear the voices of the oppressed rise up, we must listen. We have as individuals chosen to put ourselves under the Unitarian name at a time when we are free to practice our faith as full members of society. It wasn’t always so. Unitarians and others have known the bitterness of being outsiders, of being restricted and even persecuted. Perhaps that should make us more keenly aware of the importance of examining the past and the way it shapes our present.

We have at various times made changes which were not always comfortable for everyone: even the lighting of the chalice, so central to our services and identity now, is a recent addition which some saw as a part of other religions’ traditions, not ours. We are faced with questions about what we want to bring with us to give to those who come after and what we think we should leave behind.

As a faith group we also have to recognise where we stand, where we have done well and not so well. We helped shape the changes to laws on same-sex marriage, but perhaps we haven’t always been as welcoming to strangers as we like to think we are. We pride ourselves on our liberal, inclusive values, but if our churches and meeting houses are largely full of white, middle class, heterosexual people, we perhaps need to check that we aren’t just talking the talk.

As members of a wider society too, we should take a look at ourselves, personally and as a group. Are we prepared to stand by our principles, even if it makes life hard for ourselves? Will we challenge the status quo, call out the people and structures which continue to treat people unfairly? Jesus became the enemy of the establishment, both political and religious, unwilling to change his standards even if that might have out him in a position to make positive changes. We have found ourselves a home in a liberal religious tradition which has a tradition of standing up and questioning what it sees as wrong: members have been arrested, jailed, beaten and even died as they have joined their voices with others to call for justice and change.

I don’t know in which year the Rev. Nick Teape wrote his words. I do know it was before I was born. I find it a little sad that those words are still such a challenge today, but also it gives me hope: hope that the world is still full of decent people who will Stand on the Side of Love, who will be brave enough to try answering the big questions and look to make a new, happier, more peaceful and fair history for those who come next.

May it be so.